Using Pain to Focus and Improve

My Mentor, Tim Marks, says “Pain is weakness leaving the body.”   When I was twelve I rode one morning on my bike down my street, wearing only shorts.   It was a warm southern california summer day and I in my joy rode without my hands on the handle bars.   You can guess what’s next, I hit a rock and fell end over end, skidding 20 plus feet.   Skinned up, bleeding and out of breath I arose and walked home.   I sat unmoving at home for five hours, in pain and thinking until my mom came home.   It was the first time I remember pain focusing my thinking.   It was not the last.

Fast forward a few decades to, one of my daughters is out of control.   I am in more pain, emotionally, than ever before and I know it’s my fault.   I had a choice, ignore it and hope someday she would figure it out.   Or do something about it and give her a chance to have a life.   Or do whatever it takes to change and help her have a life now!   Thanks to the influence of a Tim Marks and the books and scriptures he led me to, I was able to take courage, face my doing, and change with prayer, study and accountability.

 

Today that daughter is a beautiful, kind, self sufficient young lady and I couldn’t be prouder of who she has chosen to be.   Going through pain isn’t fun, even though The Bible says “take joy in your long suffering”, it still hurts.   If we can remember God is really Sovereign life is a lot easier because the outcome longterm will be good.   This verse has helped me many times, I hope it brings you peace too.

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” – ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5:10‬ ‭ESV‬

Whatever circumstances you’re in, remember they are only temporary and God plans good for you not harm.   So lean into Him, pray, read, get counsel, reframe, get better and overcome.

Focus there is more to see. – Chris Mattis<><

5 comments on “Using Pain to Focus and Improve

  1. Johnny Zapara says:

    Looking back over my life, I would rather fall off my bike, get all skinned up and bloodied every week then have my child make a single painfully wrong decision or act out in rebellion. But I know that is not possible. No doubt God uses pain (think “fill up the sufferings of Christ”) and a child’s chosen rebellion, to bring good from what the enemy intended for evil. I don’t like the process but usually can look back and see positive character advances from the experience.

  2. Roosevelt says:

    Chris, Very good post. No pain, no gain.

  3. aknightro says:

    Great post Chris thanks for modeling an area that I am eager to expand my capacity to trust God in inspite of ny momentary feelings.

  4. Chris thank you once again for giving us needed insight around the “joy of long suffering”. Over the years you have guided me on this particular issue and you have set an example as to how one could choose to respond. Thank you for your mentorship!

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