Desire – The Limiting Factor of Success

Hunger gets us started, allows us to persist, and pushes us to finish.   In talking with my mentor, Tim Marks, I have heard him say, “The world doesn’t reward potential, if only he had desire, he could be one of the greats!”   What makes a man step up and focus where others quit?   Circumstance?   Attitude?   Upbringing?   No.   The desire to be more; to not be controlled by the world.

I believe all men (and women) are born with an innate drive to be free; I believe it is God-given.   “For You were called to freedom brothers.   Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another” (Galatians 5:13 ESV)   The bestseller, The Millionaire Next Door, noted that the majority of new millionaires in the US are 1st or 2nd generation immigrants.   What would drive a person to cross an ocean, learn a new language, learn a new culture, leave everything they know behind, start over from zero to work long hours, scrimp and save?   Desire for a better life, for an opportunity, for hope!

Here is one of my favorite quotes of all time:

“Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘Press On’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”

– Calvin Coolidge 30th president of United States of America

So how do we develop “Desire” / “Hunger”?

One key to recognize is, as a wise friend said “we are powerless to change anything we tolerate.”   We must become intolerant of our circumstances.   What are the things that we put up with that we shouldn’t?   What are the areas we “settle for?”   Where are we merely mediocre when we should be exceptional?

After a decade and a half in the psychiatric nursing field I was shocked at what I tolerated, in retrospect.   I was laid-off once, pay-cut twice, pay frozen for four years, received IOU’s, instead of checks, forced to work fur-low days, yearly cuts in benefits, huge losses in my retirement account and was injured 17 times.   Why did I put up with that?   Frankly, I hoped it would change.

No wonder I found it funny when I read this:

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

A second way to grow your hunger is to develop the discipline on dreaming.   “You never get what you want out of life, you only get what you focus on!”   That is one of my favorite truisms.   So how do we create and have hope in the midst of challenging circumstances?   Do we focus on problems or solutions?   A dream must be bigger than who we are currently and big enough to make us want to grow.   Tim Marks is famous for teaching this basic principal: “Define what you out of life, figure out the cost and pay the price!”   So what does your “ideal” life look like?   Who is it you’re supposed to be?

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky

It is crucial to decide where you want to go, what you want to accomplish, and most importantly, who you wish to become in the process!   What could you do if you dedicated the next five years, the next ten years or the rest of your life to it???   Remember: You were born for a purpose and only you can do what only you can do.   Don’t waste time not doing it, Do It Now!!!

Hope this serves You well

– Chris Mattis