Friendship what is it?

When I was younger I though everyone was my friend.   In reality ,”hoped” would be a more accurate word.   As I grew and wanted people to like me, I had many disillusionments around friendship.   Many times thinking, if only I were a better friend others would treat me well.

It is strange to me now how blind I was to the differences between being liked and being trusted.   As well as being someones friend vs being friends with someone.   Why I say blind is that I was trained for and worked in psychiatric nursing, I was a follower of Christ and I had been studying leadership, all for many years and still I could not see the differences.

It wasn’t until I got around Orrin Woodward, Chris Brady and Tim Marks that I became aware of the principals and qualities that make up a “Friend”, “Friendship” and “Being a Friend” to others.   I watched these men serve each other, stand by each other, hold each other accountable, give each other grace, and love each enough to give correction, not criticize, tear down or destroy.   It was so evident of what true Leaders they are, and made me painfully aware the world was sorely lacking men that really Lead.

The more I was around these men and their amazing wives, through their writings “Launching a Leadership Revolution” Brady & Woodward (Best Seller form Time Warner), http://orrinwoodwardblog.com/ , http://chrisbrady.typepad.com/ , http://timmarks.com/blog/ and many other books and articles, through their CDs I listened to (now on a LIFE Subscription), watching them at Leadership seminars and online http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvaCeoSM6Ew and finally getting to know and work with them, the more I became clear they were different.   In reality “better” would be a more accurate word.

I believe today we are called to be a friend to others regardless of it being returned.   Serving others in times of need, helping people back up, encouraging people to do and become their very best, seeing the best in them and pointing it out, holding their feet to the fire around actions, words and choices – these are just a few of the facets of real friendship.   “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17 ESV, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6 ESV.

If you find yourself taking care of others more than is returned to you, take heart and be glad YOU are a Friend.   And if you find others asking for you to “be their Friend” rejoice but do not be fooled thinking they want to take care of you as well.   And if you find yourself being cared for by another be Grateful for You have found a True Friend and You are Blessed indeed!

- Chris Mattis

10 comments on “Friendship what is it?

  1. Christl Wakeland says:

    That is RIGHT ON and so true! VERY well written Chris! Fantastic!

  2. Karen Carpenter says:

    A great way to start my day, Chris! And I had the opportunity to use these thoughts with an employee the first thing this morning as I was reading the blog! So blessed to be associated with you and Danae!

  3. Greg Mazur says:

    Chris, Thank you for being a true friend. Great post!

  4. Shanti says:

    My whole concept of “friendship” is growing –thank you for these insights…
    They explain a lot of life experience!

  5. Alesha Romero says:

    Great blog Chris! Looking forward to many many more.

  6. Awesome Post Chris! I love the information you teach! Your last SOL CD totally rocked! Looking forward to following your blog! Keep leading, you are blazing the trail for so many people!

  7. Will Johanning says:

    Wow, what a great realization on the topic of friendship! As a sanguine personality, too, I often felt that everyone was my ‘friend,’ growing up. Thanks for this post on clarifying what a true friend actually is. It is in Team that I am realizing who my true friends really are! Congratulations on PC, to your whole family!

  8. Butch says:

    Thanks for your unconditional friendship, Chris!

  9. bobbydmorris says:

    Awesome. Not feeling like I truly understand friendship this was aweseom thank chris growing everyday.

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